Earlier this week, I read this: “Why You’re Not Married” by Tracy McMillan on Huffington Post.  Now, set aside your political leanings and your feelings about the forum in which it was posted (mom, grandmother) and recognize that this article is one in a long line of articles in which the author attempts to explain (usually condescendingly) why the single female reader is unmarried. Usually, this is coupled with said unmarried female being painted as a desperate rules girl looking to settle down at all costs. Granted, some of this article and others like it should be taken with a grain of salt, and the author does make one or two fair points. Specifically, I agree with her point about needing to get over the idea that marriage alone will instantly make you happy. I can agree with that. Ultimately, you’re responsible for your own happiness and making it work, and I think that applies across the board, not just in a marriage or relationships.

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