I don’t have what one would characterize as a LOT of friends. That’s not to say I’m not liked. I’m pretty sure most rational people who meet me are fairly ok with me. It’s once they get to know me….but that’s for another time. Most people appear to like people in general (or are at least polite enough to not go running in the opposite direction – although based on some of the true crime series I’m watching, there are people you should go running in the opposite direction of when you meet them. Again, that’s for another time). I’d wager that rarely does one meet someone and think “Ugh, you’re the worst!” I imagine it’s more likely that people meet people and and are fairly neutral on them (ok, I’ll admit some people can be annoying right off the bat, but not the worst people ever) until some watershed moment where they realize the other person is either friend or foe. And still, that watershed moment doesn’t always occur, and people remain merely acquaintances or that guy you met once but can’t ever remember his name.
Earlier this week, I read this: “Why You’re Not Married” by Tracy McMillan on Huffington Post. Now, set aside your political leanings and your feelings about the forum in which it was posted (mom, grandmother) and recognize that this article is one in a long line of articles in which the author attempts to explain (usually condescendingly) why the single female reader is unmarried. Usually, this is coupled with said unmarried female being painted as a desperate rules girl looking to settle down at all costs. Granted, some of this article and others like it should be taken with a grain of salt, and the author does make one or two fair points. Specifically, I agree with her point about needing to get over the idea that marriage alone will instantly make you happy. I can agree with that. Ultimately, you’re responsible for your own happiness and making it work, and I think that applies across the board, not just in a marriage or relationships.